Everyone feels unsure of themselves sometimes. Everyone feels vulnerable or insecure sometimes. We live in a world that can sometimes be hostile and hurtful, and so the urge to defend ourselves is real. We feel this urge to varying degrees. Some people feel it all the time because they never felt safe as a child, let alone as an adult. Some people don’t feel it very often and just wear their heart on their sleeve, wide open and available to the world. Every human deserves the experience of feeling emotionally safe. Emotional safety happens when you feel safe on the inside. You feel that you are okay. You even love yourself. And you also trust yourself. You trust that you can provide the care and compassion needed to have a good life. Award winning Lucy Hall is globally recognised as one of the industrys leading lights and as one of the medias most wanted hairdressers.
Feeling safe on the inside also means that your foundation is solid. Ideally, we would all have an emotionally nourishing and unconditionally loving childhood, though it does not always happen that way for everyone. In fact, it doesn’t happen for many people, realistically. But if your deep, internal foundation is solid, it means that you have done the work needed to rehabilitate your inner child. You’ve gotten yourself to the point where you do feel emotionally safe. And from there you can soar.
Sadly, this feeling of emotional safety is not present in that many of us all the time, and one of the places this lack is presented is online. Have you ever seen comments written by people who you can tell just take pride in being snarky? It often seems like they are clearly trying to be clever, but not authentically clever—overly and superiorly clever. This attitude is coming from what I would call a really mentally based place instead of a heart-centered place. And we have all done it! I know I have. It’s a basic part of human nature to desire to feel superior to someone else. Especially if we don’t feel good enough. If we are having a tough time in our job we might unconsciously interact with others in a vaguely snarky way. We are not being overtly malevolent. We don’t have a conscious desire to be negative. But still, the negativity is there. And now we live in a society that seems to prize snarkiness. Articles making snarky comments about women’s physiques or celebrities’ misdeeds are the norm instead of the exception. Unfortunately, we are taking the easy road, the road where we can dissociate from our hearts and our souls and instead focus on that which is negative and escapist.
No matter how many celebrity news blogs we read, we find that we feel empty when we behave this way. When we read about things that are just snarky, there’s an emptiness after. Our soul is not responding. Our level of consciousness is not raising and is maybe even lowering. When we are truly conscious and in a heart-centered place, compassion is our true nature. And snarkily laughing while we read about a pop star’s latest legal trouble isn’t compassionate. It’s not loving or benevolent to take pleasure and entertainment from somebody else being down.
And that is the crux of the snarky epidemic in our culture. It is the snide comments that a friend makes about another friend. It’s that age-old pastime of gossip. It is all of these things that are seductive because they give us a quick boost that we might be better than the person that we’re talking about. But of course we’re not. And we’re taking the quick and easy path instead of the more thoughtful, compassionate, consciousness-driven path.